MEDICINE CABINETS – HOLD ‘DIRTY LITTLE SECRETS’

. Medicine Cabinets Are ‘Relationship Destroyers’!!! It’s a well-known fact that people like to snoop through bathroom medicine cabinets.  In fact, it is said that more than 50% of people who visit your home will really take a peek inside your medicine cabinet.  Many folks have advised that it’s a wise move to take a peek into someone’s medicine cabinet before you decide to get serious. The medicine cabinet tells volumes about a person who may not be sharing that important information with you! You’ll see if you know their legal name, the kind of medications with the dates will suggest what health issues, both mental and physical are being medicated. This is such a phenomenon, that websites show slides and videos to give you voyeuristic peeks into a plethora of medicine cabinets. Everything from sex lube, poppers, prophylactics (if size matters to you – lol) denture cream and hemorrhoid suppositories to Prozac, Seconal, Oxycodone, and Viagra!  Hell, you might get lucky to discover your prospective date or mate may have forgotten their stash of recreational drugs is in the bathroom, or maybe a sex toy! You might get a hint about their sexual practices, but of course, communication is… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Eight

Relationship Destroyers – About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships: PART 8 – DEPENDENCY – UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS      Expectations, unrealistic expectations are a major relationship destroyer.  No matter how you look at it, no matter which half of the relationship you stand for, expectations are a killer. This section could be a separate book in and of itself because it’s complex. complicated and sensitive material yet at the same time, if you look at the dynamics of ‘expectations’ through clear, unbiased, objective eyes, it’s not difficult to understand. I will explain it as I see it. This blog will only deal with one aspect of it, and it’s getting clinical, but we’re all adults here, so you can handle this. If the truth were told in equitable terms, we all have certain expectations of the person we share a relationship with. We expect this, we expect that – we wait for this, we imagine that and all of these expectations serve to fulfill our needs and desires or to compensate for what we feel we lack and deserve. Some  fair, reasonable and appropriate depending on the situations at hand. Effectively or should I say Some expectations are normal, fair, reasonable and appropriate… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Seven

Relationship Destroyers – About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships: PART 7 – The DAY the ONION CRIED: 16 DYNAMICS of SUFFERING   We think about sex, infidelity, money, and lots of other things when we talk about relationship destroyers.  We also put the blame on mental cruelty and other abusive relationships.  Have we ever gone deep down into the mire of mixed emotions? This Blog will be to the point about the major human condition that is likely to rule our personal world and predispose us for an imbalance in life.  I’m referring to suffering. Some of you might be thinking “enough said”, Dr. Grenci, ’cause I know all about suffering.  And I’ll agree with you, that you do.  We all do.  If you haven’t, I’m going to think you do not belong to our species, so where are you from? I’m prepared to open a huge can of emotional worms here today. This discussion is not about being negative or trying to upset anyone.  This discussion is purely for the purpose of facing reality…. yes, the mute point underneath and on top of all this is – reality.  I don’t expect everyone to agree with me, or even read this… Continue reading