The Appeal of BDSM

Today, BDSM has become more popular than ever, and part of its appeal is its somewhat taboo nature, which makes it even more exciting and erotically stimulating. Examples of the popularity of BDSM are everywhere in popular entertainment, books, and the media today, such as in the great success of Fifty Shades of Grey, soon to become a major motion picture, and the top selling songs and albums by Miley Cyrus, Madonna, and other singers who use the role play of a dominatrix in their videos. So what exactly is BDSM, who likes it, and why?   In a nutshell, the B stands for bondage, where one partner ties up or restrains another with everything from ropes to chains and handcuffs. The “D” stands for “domination” where one partner dominates another in a power exchange and enjoys that charge of power, while the other likes being powerless. The S stands for submission and sadism, where one partner “punishes” or “tortures” another, such as by using whips and restraints, while the other “submits” and enjoys the experience, because this is just fantasy play, not real punishment or torture, like in a jail or prison. And finally the “M” stands for “masochism,” where… Continue reading