Relationship Destroyers – Part Six


About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 6

When Two Become One… Joined at the Hip
Haven’t I heard that somewhere before?  RED FLAG!
Old school, maybe, but we’ve definitely become familiar with the saying, ‘when two become one’.  Another familiar saying is: ‘joined at the hip’.  You might think, cute, sweet, how wonderful that sounds, but the reality is… that philosophy is… a relationship destroyer.  Maybe not today, maybe not when you first think it or say it, but on down the road, being up someone’s ass after a certain amount of times can get extremely uncomfortable, or… painful.  Yikes!

However, there is a lot of truth in the saying: ‘too close for comfort’ and ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’.  Have you ever wondered where those saying came from?  I realize when your love is new, or your chemistry is on fire, that’s how you may feel, thinking: OMG, I want to be with him (or her) every minute of the day and night.  I applaud your feelings and celebrate your reasoning… for now.  But for … Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Five



About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 5 – 

Relationship Cages
I may have a strange and unique way of expressing my views about relationships, but the reason is simply this… it’s my opinion.  Unless your passion is to be someone’s submissive or sex slave or you are a devout masochist, relationship cages a turn-off, suffocating, threatening, and damned nerve-racking.  Cages are relationship destroyers for many individuals.  If you are a cage creator and cage keeper, you may be a relationship destroyer, depending on the personality of your other half.

If you are thinking, what cages? I’m going to take a peek inside these cages and right into the heart of the matter, so if you are the cage keeper and you have keys to the locks on any of these cages – find your keys.  If you are locked in Cage #1…. ah, … GET OUT!  Cages #2 & #3 speak for themselves. Relationship Cages = Relationship Destroyers:

Cages Can Cause to Weak Your Links or Destroy Relationships
Cage #1 – … Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Four



About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 4

The Main Attractions – Is it Chemistry?
Or Can Chemistry be an Umbrella Term?  Are Our ‘5 Senses’ & Imagination necessary for a Successful, Sexual Relationship?  Are We challenged by Sexual Chemistry?
Do we rely on these famous 5 plus our imagination to tell us if we are sexually suited for one another?  Do we, or should we have a daily diet or at least, a continuous diet of the ‘famous five plus’ to keep a relationship sexually alive?  You better believe you should.  My musing continues here.

For most people, I believe we would all agree, that initially, the main attraction from one person for another is a sexual attraction or sexual chemistry.  With some couples sexual chemistry maybe become intense, but with others, it may be mild in nature.  However, the important factor is that you have a compatible libido with your partner so that both individuals feel satisfied instead of neglected or pressured into intimacy they don’t desire.

Chemistry as an Umbrella Term
For the sake of argument, … Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Three



About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 3

Are Your Ready To Get Serious Here?
I was pleased to receive your responses. Everyone’s comments in Part 2 were right because those were the main principles we were taught to abide by to maintain the best relationship(s) possible.  To remember the conclusion of Part 2, we agreed that: Trust, respect, honesty, communication and fidelity are the main principles for most romantic or sexual relationships.  I asked: “Do you think these basic principles are enough to ensure most intimate or sexual couples of a harmonious, fun-loving, romantic, successful, lengthy relationship?”  The answer is flat out – NO!

Before I continue with an explanation, I will tell you briefly about myself, because an insight to my thinking and philosophy is necessary for you to understand how and why I come to the conclusions I do.  That, in and of itself, still might not be enough for you to follow my train of thought, and that’s okay.  I don’t expect all of you to do so, for the simple reason we all come from different places in … Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Two

.About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 3

About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 2

The Majority of Us Are at Fault
To begin with, unfortunately, the majority of us are at fault for taking part in destroying a relationship or relationships. Period. Only the brave and confident will agree and admit to being at the very least, partially to blame for having their part in ruining or Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships(s).  As I see it, much of this is a result of what we learn in childhood from parents, family, and friends, how we interpret relationships as a child, and how we relate in adulthood to how and what we interpreted relationships as children.

Another Key Factor is:
What we are NOT taught as children and growing up. We are taught and study English, Math, Social Studies, and Science in grade school, then go on to the same plus Biology, a foreign language, electives, etc. and on to college for the advanced courses, majors, maybe adding psychology, … Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part One



About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 1

Who is a Relationship Destroyer?  
Sounds cruel?  Do you know someone who you would label a “relationship destroyer”? Come on now… we’re adults here.  We’re not being judgmental.  We are simply having an intellectual discussion about one of the most important, controversial and debated subjects of serious concern.  If you agree, continue reading.  If you are a “know it all” or you prefer to turn a blind eye to the importance of discussing relationships, discontinue reading and go find something to read or to do that’s more appealing to you.  I will believe you have had perfect relationships in the past, you are in an idyllic, loving relationship now, and that you are the ideal, faultless partner.  Good for you.  If that’s the case, maybe we should clone you now or bow down to your holiness.

Most People do Not Have Perfect Relationships
But the reality is… most people do not have perfect relationships, in fact, most people, I didn’t say all… I said, most people have demanding, troublesome, tormented and/or … Continue reading


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My New Year’s Resolutions 2017


Dr. Grenci, aka Mistress Carla

1-  LOVE – I will love as much and as often as possible because we never know what today or tomorrow will bring. Will I be here tomorrow or next month for those who need me, love me and count on me? Will that old man be alive in another month? Will that dear lady be well enough to hear my words, to feel presence and my touch or be aware I’m by her side? Or will she be too ill to remember I exist, to remember I care? I will continue to be kind, compassionate and supportive to those who need me.


2-  WORK – I will work as hard and consistently as my profession warrants and my ability can handle the work; to be as creative and productive as I can be; to never falter and never give up. I plan on publishing 4-5 more books in 2017!


3-  HEALTH – Exercise – Promotes Discipline: I will exercise at least 1-2 hours daily, 4-6 days per week; to eat sensibly, to keep … Continue reading

2016 for Changes, Challenges & Progress: Courage & Convictions

Happy New Year from Dr. GrenciI predict that in 2016 the possibilities of a great new beginning will unfold on many levels. I believe that each and every one of us must contribute with positive action, influence and support to promote changes and progress.

I am aware it will take unyielding strength, perseverance, motivation and determination from everyone of us to make good things happen in our community and in our world, and I am confident to propose those challenges to all of you by being strong and loyal to my convictions. I take much pride and honor in my convictions. They are my most priceless virtues.

Among the New Year’s Resolutions I made today, I made a promise to myself and my loved ones to continue do the best I can, and to provide the most I can in 2016 to positively influence as many individuals possible as a role model, mentor, educator and/or support system. I vow to be honorable, trustworthy and forthright. I promise to use good judgement and appropriate protocol.

I challenge you, all of you, to promote and contribute … Continue reading

Has Recognizing Same-Sex Marriages Stirred Up Another Angry Bee Hive?

Recognizing Same-Sex MarriagesA new topic of concern that is in need of much deliberation and discussion was raised on LinkedIn recently by Dr. Elizabeth “Eli” Sheff, and I want to address this issue, too.

It’s the question: Should Polygyny marriages be recognized now, too?

Naturally, people are starting to be concerned about “what’s up next” in the good old USA? Probably the same folks who opposed same-sex marriage are the ones with the most fear that legally recognizing same-sex marriage will inevitably lead to plural marriage. Yet historically, polygyny has been far more popular than monogamy in several countries and religions, at least for men of high status or those who can afford it.

Yes, we know that recognizing safe-sex marriage would automatically stir up another hot pot of bewilderment, panic and continued opposition for those who believe their way is the only way it should be. The 24 thousand dollar question is this: Did recognizing/legalizing same-sex marriage profoundly change the definition of marriage so that now “marrriage” has assumed the capacity for many alternative interpretations? Or, does the institution of marriage … Continue reading