2016 for Changes, Challenges & Progress: Courage & Convictions

Happy New Year from Dr. GrenciI predict that in 2016 the possibilities of a great new beginning will unfold on many levels. I believe that each and every one of us must contribute with positive action, influence and support to promote changes and progress.

I am aware it will take unyielding strength, perseverance, motivation and determination from everyone of us to make good things happen in our community and in our world, and I am confident to propose those challenges to all of you by being strong and loyal to my convictions. I take much pride and honor in my convictions. They are my most priceless virtues.

Among the New Year’s Resolutions I made today, I made a promise to myself and my loved ones to continue do the best I can, and to provide the most I can in 2016 to positively influence as many individuals possible as a role model, mentor, educator and/or support system. I vow to be honorable, trustworthy and forthright. I promise to use good judgement and appropriate protocol.

I challenge you, all of you, to promote and contribute … Continue reading


– Let’s Face Reality now!


Dr. GrenciI have been an advocate, teacher and guest lecturer on the topic of “S&M and the Law” since 1987. Because of my extensive, first hand experience in the 1980s through the present time, I have felt responsible to share my knowledge to help people in preventing all sorts of problems in their lives which can be avoided. I have lectured and presented at universities, conventions, clubs and for groups and provided private tutoring for professionals, individuals and couples who have taken an interest in learning about how our society, law enforcement and the judicial system deal with the professional dommes, practitioners and other folks involved on some level in the BDSM lifestyle. With 36 years experience I have much to offer in the education and enlightenment of this topic. Read here:



What else I have learned is the resistance and avoidance I have observed and been subjected to by the very same people who need the education the most. This reality has been discouraging and interesting to me at the same time. It … Continue reading

Has Recognizing Same-Sex Marriages Stirred Up Another Angry Bee Hive?

Recognizing Same-Sex MarriagesA new topic of concern that is in need of much deliberation and discussion was raised on LinkedIn recently by Dr. Elizabeth “Eli” Sheff, and I want to address this issue, too.

It’s the question: Should Polygyny marriages be recognized now, too?

Naturally, people are starting to be concerned about “what’s up next” in the good old USA? Probably the same folks who opposed same-sex marriage are the ones with the most fear that legally recognizing same-sex marriage will inevitably lead to plural marriage. Yet historically, polygyny has been far more popular than monogamy in several countries and religions, at least for men of high status or those who can afford it.

Yes, we know that recognizing safe-sex marriage would automatically stir up another hot pot of bewilderment, panic and continued opposition for those who believe their way is the only way it should be. The 24 thousand dollar question is this: Did recognizing/legalizing same-sex marriage profoundly change the definition of marriage so that now “marrriage” has assumed the capacity for many alternative interpretations? Or, does the institution of marriage … Continue reading

Imagine if Charlayne Grenci Played Christian Grey’s Role in Fifty Shades Movie!

What if E. L. James had used a seasoned, tough, dominant woman for her fantasy figure instead of the sexual sadist, Christian Grey? What if her main character had been Dr. Charlayne Grenci? Imagine The Devil Wears Prada colliding with the Fifty Shades of Grey? Picture Meryl Streep playing the role of Dr. Charlayne Grenci aka Mistress Carla in FSOG? The movie may not have sold 100 million copies, but the theme would have been as entertaining and unique as bizarre and controversial and Streep would have done a brilliant job. It still could have been a fantasy fiction if James wrote it. Or, would it have been better as a non-fiction? Why has this come up?

I was told that Grenci, Dr. Carla, has been a fantasy figure in her private and professional life for over forty years. Why is this true? The reaction of people to her, their letters, their comments, confessions and proposals. Thousands of men and women alike, young and old have voiced or written about their curiosity, temptation and titillation by the fantasy figure they see. So what’s the deal with Carla’s image that attracts people… or scares them away? Dr. Carla admitted to me in … Continue reading

I’m Guilty As Charged – I’ve Been a Social Activist for Over 30 Years

GE DIGITAL CAMERAIf you are interested in who I am, and you would like to get to know me, you should read about the depth and diversity of my experiences in my true life story… with its shocking events and my huge life lessons! It’s all in my book, “Queen of Domination: My Secret Life“!

My next Blog is not going to be an excerpt from my book, I’m going to write about a different segment of my life. Many people don’t know I’m considered a social activist. It all started in 1983, but it continued for over 20 years.

After surviving the trauma and political combat of my five year legal battle from 1983-1988, I called the Witch-Hunt Battle which was fraught with corruption and hypocrisy by the State of Florida, I defied the system and challenged it once again. I couldn’t have done it any other way. I would do it all over again. The Judge had threatened me in 1985 in front of a packed courtroom saying, he better not see me in his courtroom again for practicing domination, or I would be facing … Continue reading

Our Forgotten ‘Earth Angels’ Part II – Take Action Now – Become a Humanitarian in 2015! Because This Can Happen To Any of Us

Our Forgotten Earth angelsI’m going to write about the fear and despair of many elderly citizens. This goes across all nationalities, religions, cultures and societies. I’m talking about all people. I’m referring to the isolation. The loneliness. The emptiness.  Yes… it is depressing for us who still have a healthy, productive life, which is why most people turn a blind eye and run the other way, even turn their backs on folks in their own family or circle of friends. It’s a crime and a sin, but it’s here and there and everywhere, and we must deal with it. Not wanting to leave their home, though alone day and night. Fearing isolation from family because of illness and not being able to keep up and function normally. Or the haunting fear of being taken away from familiar surroundings and put in a strange place, or with a relative that does the favor out of protest?

An elderly person’s home is their sanctuary, their comfort zone and their only security. It is one of the only things they have left to count on and cling to. I believe that … Continue reading


sm-vs-torture-in-the-bdsm-communitySome people, especially law enforcement, have trouble making a distinction, or refuse to recognize the difference between a killer’s torture chamber and a dominant’s playroom, which is sometimes called a dungeon.  A killer’s torture chamber is exactly that, but a dominant’s playroom is for consensual BDSM and role-play, between two or more participants.

The truth of the matter is there are predators who stalk for prey in the BDSM community. They recognize vulnerable, needy submissives and they know how to attract them. There are also legitimate BDSM sadists in the leather and BDSM communities. This group are not referred to as sexual sadists, because sexual sadism is listed as a psychiatric disorder associated with illegal activities such as rape, torture and murder.

BDSM sadists are looking for willing participants who are counterparts, or masochists, for safe, sane and consensual play. The line that separates consensual BDSM play from cruel or violent BDSM play is a lack of respect for the submissive’s limitations. In my opinion, BDSM play between individuals is no longer considered BDSM, but is considered violence or abuse if the play is … Continue reading

More About “Queen of Domination: My Secret Life”

CP Promo Sword CutQueen of Domination: My Secret Life is a rare book. It is rare because an American woman wrote about her personal sex life in explicit detail. Rarely in history, has an American woman written about her sex life and published a book about it for the world to read. Another dynamic that makes this book rare is because it exposes the depth, intensity, diversity and versatility of female sexual behavior.

I, Dr. Charlayne Grenci reveal the extent of my sexual experiences from curiosity, passion and desire through exploration and experimentation which are either shocking, entertaining, educational or erotic. I also divulged my innermost feelings, some of which I had never uttered to a confidant. I believe the seriousness of my confessions in this book are so powerful and compelling that they bring a variety of messages and lessons to the reader. Most definitely theoretically non-conventional.

Queen of Domination: My Secret Life is a good read for many reasons. This book embraces a philosophy of the human condition that exists on the surface of our psyche and that which has deeply … Continue reading

P R E S S – R E L E A S E, Dr. Charlayne Grenci, AKA Mistress Carla Will Dominate the Literary World – August 25!

Ready for Radio ShowWith QUEEN OF DOMINATION: MY SECRET LIFE, her riveting, erotic, tell-all memoir! Historically, Dr. Grenci is one of the rare women who chose to share her curiosity, fascination and appetite for promiscuous sexual exploration and prohibited sex with men and women. Was she consumed by dark deeds and dark temptations that were filling her compulsions? Or was her drive to personally explore sex and do sex research to
satisfy an obsession? Or was she hell-bent on seeking more and more thrilling sensations?

Full of steamy sex scenes that titillate as well as instruct  “how to do it”! Leave your inhibitions behind and step into an extraordinary world of sexual and kinky pleasures! Alternative sexual expressions  and bold, torrid escapades stimulate Grenci’s fascinating and compelling true  life story that will keep you questioning, entertained and…. begging for more! Read Queen of Domination: My Secret Life.” Release Date -August 25!