Relationship Destroyers – Part Three



About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 3

Are Your Ready To Get Serious Here?
I was pleased to receive your responses. Everyone’s comments in Part 2 were right because those were the main principles we were taught to abide by to maintain the best relationship(s) possible.  To remember the conclusion of Part 2, we agreed that: Trust, respect, honesty, communication and fidelity are the main principles for most romantic or sexual relationships.  I asked: “Do you think these basic principles are enough to ensure most intimate or sexual couples of a harmonious, fun-loving, romantic, successful, lengthy relationship?”  The answer is flat out – NO!

Before I continue with an explanation, I will tell you briefly about myself, because an insight to my thinking and philosophy is necessary for you to understand how and why I come to the conclusions I do.  That, in and of itself, still might not be enough for you to follow my train of thought, and that’s okay.  I don’t expect all of you to do so, for the simple reason we all come from different places in … Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Two

.About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 3

About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 2

The Majority of Us Are at Fault
To begin with, unfortunately, the majority of us are at fault for taking part in destroying a relationship or relationships. Period. Only the brave and confident will agree and admit to being at the very least, partially to blame for having their part in ruining or Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships(s).  As I see it, much of this is a result of what we learn in childhood from parents, family, and friends, how we interpret relationships as a child, and how we relate in adulthood to how and what we interpreted relationships as children.

Another Key Factor is:
What we are NOT taught as children and growing up. We are taught and study English, Math, Social Studies, and Science in grade school, then go on to the same plus Biology, a foreign language, electives, etc. and on to college for the advanced courses, majors, maybe adding psychology, … Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part One



About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 1

Who is a Relationship Destroyer?  
Sounds cruel?  Do you know someone who you would label a “relationship destroyer”? Come on now… we’re adults here.  We’re not being judgmental.  We are simply having an intellectual discussion about one of the most important, controversial and debated subjects of serious concern.  If you agree, continue reading.  If you are a “know it all” or you prefer to turn a blind eye to the importance of discussing relationships, discontinue reading and go find something to read or to do that’s more appealing to you.  I will believe you have had perfect relationships in the past, you are in an idyllic, loving relationship now, and that you are the ideal, faultless partner.  Good for you.  If that’s the case, maybe we should clone you now or bow down to your holiness.

Most People do Not Have Perfect Relationships
But the reality is… most people do not have perfect relationships, in fact, most people, I didn’t say all… I said, most people have demanding, troublesome, tormented and/or … Continue reading


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My New Year’s Resolutions 2017


Dr. Grenci, aka Mistress Carla

1-  LOVE – I will love as much and as often as possible because we never know what today or tomorrow will bring. Will I be here tomorrow or next month for those who need me, love me and count on me? Will that old man be alive in another month? Will that dear lady be well enough to hear my words, to feel presence and my touch or be aware I’m by her side? Or will she be too ill to remember I exist, to remember I care? I will continue to be kind, compassionate and supportive to those who need me.


2-  WORK – I will work as hard and consistently as my profession warrants and my ability can handle the work; to be as creative and productive as I can be; to never falter and never give up. I plan on publishing 4-5 more books in 2017!


3-  HEALTH – Exercise – Promotes Discipline: I will exercise at least 1-2 hours daily, 4-6 days per week; to eat sensibly, to keep … Continue reading



They Are Telling the Truth!!!

I’m looking forward to Hillary Clinton becoming the 1st woman to ever win the Presidential election!!! I believe Trump has finally shot himself in the foot too many times. His boasting and denial of engaging in sexual predatory behavior with the women who finally stood up to report him, was the final straw. I had similar experiences with men decades ago, too, but not Trump (that would have grossed me out the most). I DID NOT report any of those incidents either, to the social media, police or anyone except a friend. That wasn’t an option for me or most other women, for these reasons:

1 – No laws to defend women then, like there is today,

2- Women were criticized and blamed for causing the trouble and then humiliated by it,

3- Women would have their names and reputations dragged through the mud.

4- Women were not believed, so “telling” or “reporting” wasn’t an option for most of us back then.

5- Embarrassment to my family

Read this… Examples of my experiences in the 1970s & 1980s in Florida:

1- A physician’s employment application for assistant in a doctor’s office … Continue reading

SECRET CINEMAS, Grenci’s New Book About Sexual Adventures!

 SECRET CINEMAS IS COMING SOON….  To The Theatre ‘In You’!!!

You’re invited to Secret Cinemas, created and directed by Dr. Charlayne Grenci for adult entertainment. Dr. Grenci is the sexologist and Imagineer that wants the reader to let go and experience sexual adventures with a virtual reality mindset.

This book is about sexual fantasies and sexual adventures that we can experience in our imagination. We all have a very private, secret theatre in our imagination which I call a secret cinema. It’s an erotic, bizarre or beautiful, sometimes kinky or evil, naughty or nice ‘show-time’ any time we choose to see it. Secret Cinemas is here to make your imagination come alive.

If you can dream it, you can experience it, if you let your imagination run wild.  Everything we can see in our imagination, we can experience in a make-believe virtual sense, like it’s happening to us, because our minds are as powerful and creative as we allow them to be. Our imaginations are as dirty and decadent as it can get.   Secret Cinemas is pioneering a distinctive path of its own, while not claiming to cover all aspects of previously published books about sexual fantasies. This book offers … Continue reading

The Power of Trump’s Ruthless Rhetoric Influences Violence & Manipulates the Public

Dr. GrenciMore clever statements and decisions with a thinly-veiled, scheme/message by the Rep. Front-runner:  when Trump “mentioned” there would be ‘riots’ if……!  What do you think he was conveying to the public? Just like his remarks, “I’d punch him in the face”.  What resulted after that? Certain words, especially words of hate or violence, speak volumes and influence some angry people to engage in violent behavior, whether verbal or physical.  Remember, manipulation and control, like sadism, has just as much power (or more affect) when delivered verbally as physically. Words are as powerful and dangerous as torture, because they can promote violence.

Why do you believe Trump cancelled his participation in Monday’s upcoming debate? Most people want to believe it’s because he wants to avoid riots or he has won already and doesn’t need to do debates any more. Not my take on that issue at all. I look at the whole psychological picture, the probable strategy of a narcissist. I believe his decision is part of his ruthless scheme.

How about this strategy – he doesn’t want to give either of his remaining running … Continue reading

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The Absurdity and Cruelty of Politics

Let’s reflect back to 2001. “What’s on your mind?”

Dr. CarlaThis is what’s been on my mind for too long: I am sick and tired of Fox News, especially Shawn on Hannity. He is overbearingly insulting and disrespectful to all Democrats especially to Hillary Clinton. He attacks everyone and ridicules everyone he interviews if they aren’t in agreement with him (or a Republican), and he habitually talks over them when they are expressing positives about Sanders, Clinton or Obama (or other famous Democrats).

But what is the most distressing is how obvious he appears to not like women, especially women of power and intellect. I can say with confidence that it looks like that is the prominent theme with the Republican candidates, too. So let’s face the facts here: how many American men will be horrified angry and/or threatened if a woman is successful to become the President of the United States!? Really?

I may generate hate mail and slander myself for saying this, but oh well, like Hillary, I’ve been used to tolerating male chauvinism for decades, so go right ahead. My bottom line is this: it’s about darn time … Continue reading