What if E. L. James had used a seasoned, tough, dominant woman for her fantasy figure instead of the sexual sadist, Christian Grey? What if her main character had been Dr. Charlayne Grenci? Imagine The Devil Wears Prada colliding with the Fifty Shades of Grey? Picture Meryl Streep playing the role of Dr. Charlayne Grenci aka Mistress Carla in FSOG? The movie may not have sold 100 million copies, but the theme would have been as entertaining and unique as bizarre and controversial and Streep would have done a brilliant job. It still could have been a fantasy fiction if James wrote it. Or, would it have been better as a non-fiction? Why has this come up?
I was told that Grenci, Dr. Carla, has been a fantasy figure in her private and professional life for over forty years. Why is this true? The reaction of people to her, their letters, their comments, confessions and proposals. Thousands of men and women alike, young and old have voiced or written about their curiosity, temptation and titillation by the fantasy figure they see. So what’s the deal with Carla’s image that attracts people… or scares them away? Dr. Carla admitted to me in … Continue reading
If you are interested in who I am, and you would like to get to know me, you should read about the depth and diversity of my experiences in my true life story… with its shocking events and my huge life lessons! It’s all in my book, “Queen of Domination: My Secret Life“!
My next Blog is not going to be an excerpt from my book, I’m going to write about a different segment of my life. Many people don’t know I’m considered a social activist. It all started in 1983, but it continued for over 20 years.
After surviving the trauma and political combat of my five year legal battle from 1983-1988, I called the Witch-Hunt Battle which was fraught with corruption and hypocrisy by the State of Florida, I defied the system and challenged it once again. I couldn’t have done it any other way. I would do it all over again. The Judge had threatened me in 1985 in front of a packed courtroom saying, he better not see me in his courtroom again for practicing domination, or I would be facing … Continue reading
I’m going to write about the fear and despair of many elderly citizens. This goes across all nationalities, religions, cultures and societies. I’m talking about all people. I’m referring to the isolation. The loneliness. The emptiness. Yes… it is depressing for us who still have a healthy, productive life, which is why most people turn a blind eye and run the other way, even turn their backs on folks in their own family or circle of friends. It’s a crime and a sin, but it’s here and there and everywhere, and we must deal with it. Not wanting to leave their home, though alone day and night. Fearing isolation from family because of illness and not being able to keep up and function normally. Or the haunting fear of being taken away from familiar surroundings and put in a strange place, or with a relative that does the favor out of protest?
An elderly person’s home is their sanctuary, their comfort zone and their only security. It is one of the only things they have left to count on and cling to. I believe that … Continue reading
Some people, especially law enforcement, have trouble making a distinction, or refuse to recognize the difference between a killer’s torture chamber and a dominant’s playroom, which is sometimes called a dungeon. A killer’s torture chamber is exactly that, but a dominant’s playroom is for consensual BDSM and role-play, between two or more participants.
The truth of the matter is there are predators who stalk for prey in the BDSM community. They recognize vulnerable, needy submissives and they know how to attract them. There are also legitimate BDSM sadists in the leather and BDSM communities. This group are not referred to as sexual sadists, because sexual sadism is listed as a psychiatric disorder associated with illegal activities such as rape, torture and murder.
BDSM sadists are looking for willing participants who are counterparts, or masochists, for safe, sane and consensual play. The line that separates consensual BDSM play from cruel or violent BDSM play is a lack of respect for the submissive’s limitations. In my opinion, BDSM play between individuals is no longer considered BDSM, but is considered violence or abuse if the play is … Continue reading
Queen of Domination: My Secret Life is a rare book. It is rare because an American woman wrote about her personal sex life in explicit detail. Rarely in history, has an American woman written about her sex life and published a book about it for the world to read. Another dynamic that makes this book rare is because it exposes the depth, intensity, diversity and versatility of female sexual behavior.
I, Dr. Charlayne Grenci reveal the extent of my sexual experiences from curiosity, passion and desire through exploration and experimentation which are either shocking, entertaining, educational or erotic. I also divulged my innermost feelings, some of which I had never uttered to a confidant. I believe the seriousness of my confessions in this book are so powerful and compelling that they bring a variety of messages and lessons to the reader. Most definitely theoretically non-conventional.
Queen of Domination: My Secret Life is a good read for many reasons. This book embraces a philosophy of the human condition that exists on the surface of our psyche and that which has deeply … Continue reading
With QUEEN OF DOMINATION: MY SECRET LIFE, her riveting, erotic, tell-all memoir! Historically, Dr. Grenci is one of the rare women who chose to share her curiosity, fascination and appetite for promiscuous sexual exploration and prohibited sex with men and women. Was she consumed by dark deeds and dark temptations that were filling her compulsions? Or was her drive to personally explore sex and do sex research to
satisfy an obsession? Or was she hell-bent on seeking more and more thrilling sensations?
Full of steamy sex scenes that titillate as well as instruct “how to do it”! Leave your inhibitions behind and step into an extraordinary world of sexual and kinky pleasures! Alternative sexual expressions and bold, torrid escapades stimulate Grenci’s fascinating and compelling true life story that will keep you questioning, entertained and…. begging for more! Read “Queen of Domination: My Secret Life.” Release Date -August 25!
My non-conformist years of rebellion were starting to take a toll on me. I was still refined at heart but remarkably immature. I was about to enter a world which would conflict with everything I had been taught as a child and all the values which were inbred in me. Had I also been programmed for alternative lifestyles? Up through my twenties I was still quite naive in some respects, and I surely wasn’t aware there was an underground subculture which would defy all the principles of my childhood up-bringing, as well as challenge my character and community status. By all social norms, this new lifestyle, this new profession would mock that old-fashioned ideology and all the disciplines and protocol that went with it.
It must have been in the cards? Soon, I would become known as a Professional Dominatrix. I would be asked if I was a witch or a fortune teller. I would also been referred to as “the Larry Flint” of the BDSM community. What most people didn’t know is that around the … Continue reading
It was amazing in those early days, when people met me and heard what I did for a living; they became anxiously interested in seeking my advice about their personal sex lives. This happened on a regular basis in and out of the dungeon.
Everywhere I went and most everyone I met became curious and started inquiring, probing…. I felt I was “on stage” wherever I was, but I didn’t have a problem sharing my knowledge, nor did the subject of “sex” embarrass me. It seemed everybody had questions or issues about their relationship or sex life. Most mainstream people were not familiar with the subculture I was involved with, but they knew it dealt with sexuality and that is what caught their interest.
Discussions with strangers and acquaintances quickly became as frequent and popular as with my personal friends and fetish enthusiasts.
Whenever I divulged my taboo occupation to family doctors, I was asked to stay and chat with them after my appointment. Predictably, they all wanted to be enlightened on the subject of domination and submission and what went on … Continue reading
Is it Rare for a Woman to Publish a Book…. About Her Sex Life?
Take a Taste of This!
QUEEN OF DOMINATION, MY SECRET LIFE is a mind-bender. Hell yes, I’m going to lay it on the line, it’s a mind-fuck beyond the scope of reasoning to a degree. That’s what you will think some times, ’cause it’s deep… extra deep. Maybe unfathomable in parts. I’ll take you from prim and proper ballet shoes and violin lessons to hard-core leather boots, whips and chains and everything in between!
This book is jam packed full of life, karma and choices. Some were beyond my control. Most were not. I’m talking about the real deal.
Something fascinating was brought to my attention two weeks ago when my dearest colleague took me by surprise by asking a question I wasn’t prepared for.
“Carla, what makes your book unique?” It sounded like an easy question.
“Well, um, because I wrote it.” I answered not knowing what he expected.
“Carla, stop and think about it, what makes your book unique?” I hesitated to respond this time, thinking I … Continue reading